Intimacy In Public: Can Being Naughty Be Good For Your Marriage?

Couples who seem to have the most passionate and sexy of marriages tend to also have ways of keeping t heir sex lives in peak shape by doing the things that most other couples haven’t done in a very long time.

For example, I know of a couple who has been married for over twenty years and their sex life is still as hot and passionate as it ever was. They would make out in their driveway and admitted that a part of the thrill for them was the effect that it had on the neighbors. Occasionally we’ll see the lady next door peering out at us from behind the curtains, the husband said, and we’ll duck down behind the seat and giggle away and go at it some more. We’re positive that she is jealous of us.

Basic to all naughtiness in sex is the element of thumbing our nose at the rest of the world. Breaking rules, after all, is a social act: We cannot be bad or dirty unless there is a society out there to disapprove… and to threaten to catch us at it. For many of us, the naughtiest and most thrilling sex there is, is sex which flirts with public discovery.

But let’s get one thing straight, we are not recommending exhibitionism to anybody. Amongst other things, public nudity and public sex are both against the law. But what we do recommend to those who, like Woody Allen, think that sex is dirty only when it is good is that they experiment with sex which treads close to the edge of public view. We will still be doing it alone and no one needs to be harmed or scandalized. Yet we will recapture some of the thrill of breaking the rules.

For some of us, the very idea of going public fills our mind with anxiety. There are those of us who still are not comfortable with even the tamest of public affection; who cannot even stop and kiss at the corner without being overcome by embarrassment and guilt. That is called shame, and it is unfortunate that there are so many men and women who experience shame as a result of affection, regardless if it is public or not. A public kiss has a tingle all of it’s own; a very sexy tingle. It’s a great place to start if you would like to start adding excitement to your marriage.

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